Identities

We have each created identities within our minds and have tricked ourselves into believing that's who we are. If one of your identities is "I'm not good enough" as in I'm not good enough to be loved, to be attracted to, to be competent at my work, to be accepted by certain other people -- then that identity is triggered whenever the appropriate stimulus shows up. For example, if you see an attractive person, but you have identified with "I'm not good enough", then your brain and body will respond with fearful emotion. You will automatically think and behave in ways to prove to this person and yourself that you aren't good enough for her/him.

Our combined created identities make up the ego, the false self. You transcend these identities by allowing yourself to feel them without judgment or repression, then turning them over to your Higher Self/Spirit/God/Inner Being for correction. The problem is not in your ability or inability to be attractive. It is in your own illusions of unattractiveness. You have used your power to make yourself powerless. Now use it to reclaim who you really are.
William Frank Diedrich, author of The Road Home and Adults at Work: How Individuals and Organizations Can Grow Up.  Found at http://adults-at-work.com