Real spiritual and personal growth begins with responsibility. No one is coming to save you.
This doesn't mean that miracles don't happen. They do. As long as you are blaming people, or the economy, or your mom for your life the way it is, you aren't responsible. Miracles are unlikely in this state.
Whatever is happening in your life--you own it. You are the one who must respond. There is no power in being a victim. There is no happiness in playing that you are always the "good one" in relationships, or that the world has been unfair to you. You aren't, and it hasn't. We all have lessons to learn.
There is power in responsibility. You act, and you accept the consequences of your actions. When you stop blaming you are free. When you choose to act rather than sitting around hoping, you are empowered. You are responsible. You never know for sure what the exact outcome will be. Move forward, trusting that things will work out. Be open to all possibilities. This change in perception, from victim to victor, from powerless to powerful, is a miracle in itself. When you see yourself and the world differently, you act differently--and you get different results.
William Frank Diedrich
Human Adulthood: A Spiritual Romance
(A novel about responsibility and miracles)